Do not fear

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” - Marie Curie Many of the men and women I work with who are affected by pornography/sexual addiction experience intense feelings of fear. They fear that the addiction will never […]

The sanctity of womanhood

I’ve been behind on posting to this blog for a week due to the arrival of my first daughter. She was born last week and is doing very well. Even though I have three sons, welcoming a daughter into our family has caused me to ponder on the sacredness of womanhood. Pornography makes a complete […]

Shame and Identity

Maurine Proctor, editor-in-chief for Meridian Magazine, an online LDS magazine, recently wrote two fantastic articles on the topics of shame and identity. Since sexual addiction kills the spirituality of those who struggle with it, it’s critical that spiritual solutions are sought out as the basis treatment. Understanding personal worth and value, especially how God sees […]

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and addiction

Here is an excellent educational video on posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Virtually every partner who discovers her husband’s or boyfriend’s use of pornography experiences symptoms of PTSD. Women experience feelings of anxiety, shock, anger, numbing, intrusive thoughts, panic, and other symptoms that disrupt their lives. This video explains the seriousness of PTSD and the need to […]

Isolation and Self-Loathing

I think one of the most dangerous conditions a recovering individual can experience is the combination of feeling self-loathing and isolation. Self-loathing, or shame, is a common experience for those in recovery. It is usually something most recovering individuals feel long before their addiction starts (as you know, addiction is actually a cover-up for feelings […]

Don’t overreact!

One of the biggest challenges with overcoming a sexual addiction is the tendency for recovering addicts to make large, sweeping changes early in recovery. When the recovering addict sees the pain and anger in the face of his wife or loved ones, he often becomes reactive and makes dramatic efforts to prove to them that […]