by Brannon Patrick LifeStar Lehi 1. Sexual addiction shouldn’t be treated like a real addiction. Compulsive pornography use has all the elements of an addiction. The rate and duration increase over time. People use it to numb out pain or medicate their emotions. It causes disconnection, denial and trauma in relationships. 2. If you’re active…
Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Betrayal
by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT Founder and Director LifeStar of St. George, UT I regularly meet with men who tell me they have given up pornography and sexual acting for good and have no intentions of going back. They share how they’ve moved from darkness to light. They talk about the mighty change in their…
Fighting Against Pornography- Part 1
The Broken Windows theory, developed more than 30 years ago, holds that police can stop higher levels of crime by giving more attention to the smaller crimes, such as breaking windows. By emphasizing law and order and a different level of community expectations, crime rates overall can be lowered. A lot of police and social…
Fighting Against Pornography- Part 2
Editor’s note: The following story deals with sexually-themed subject matter that will not be appropriate for some readers. Discretion is advised. This is part two in a four-part series. Read part one: “Ubiquitous assailant: The dangerous unasked questions surrounding pornography“. Read part 3: “Why laws to fight pornography aren’t being used.” Read part four: “How couples break the…
Fighting Against Pornography Part 4
SALT LAKE CITY — With an eye toward both preventing and recovering from the devastating impacts of pornography, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has launched a new website that is based on what one therapist calls “the enabling power of the Atonement of Jesus Christ.” The website is titled “Overcoming Pornography Through the…
Of The Heart
In recovery work, we learn a lot about toxic shame. Toxic shame is the feeling that we are deeply flawed, inadequate, and therefore, unworthy of being accepted and loved. Toxic shame is like being plunged into darkness, with a very limited view of yourself and your abilities. Even worse, it hijacks your sense of being…
Love You, Hate the Porn
Net Nanny invited Geoff Steurer to present an online webinar on the subject of couples recovery from pornography addiction. He presented an hour-long webinar titled “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity.”
Does Your Marriage Need a Boost?
We are starting our first-ever Marriage Recovery workshop for couples who want to do more focused work to strengthen their marriage in the recovery process. This is more than just an informational workshop. We will work with couples to help them practice skills and discuss what they’re learning with…
Recovery is a lifestyle transformation
by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT Director - LifeSTAR St. George, UT I recently spoke with an individual who described some of the changes he had gone through over the past year of recovery from pornography addiction. He talked about his decision to literally throw away a trash bag full of over 150 DVDs that had…
Opening up in Recovery
By Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT Director, LifeSTAR of St. George, UT One of the most significant recovery tasks for both addicts and partners is having the courage to open up to others about their struggles. The thought of having to tell other people their story fills them with fear and dread. Of course, this is…