When the World Crumbles by Jill Call, LMFT Trauma shakes the very foundation on which you’ve built your life. Trauma is defined as a life-threatening event and, with betrayal trauma, it threatens the life you’ve built together. Your world can start to crumble when suddenly you discover your partner isn’t someone you know anymore. As…
Letting go of what is not ours
by Jill Call, MS, LMFT LifeStar of St. George, Utah It’s been said that worry is like a rocking chair, it will give you something to do but doesn’t get you anywhere. Worrying, obsessing and controlling are illusions. They’re just tricks that we play on ourselves. We trick ourselves into thinking that by worrying, obsessing,…
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Many years ago a car company, attempting to show the advantages of front wheel drive, aired a commercial showing an Alaskan dog sled team pushing its sled rather than pulling it. Of course, the sled moved nowhere and the dogs and sled were tangled in a chaotic mess. As a therapist specializing in the treatment…
A Guide For The Young Women Who Are Dating: Pornography Addiction is SERIOUS!
by Jacy (Pornography addiction is sexual addiction. Sexual addiction is pornography addiction. Don’t let the words scare you off or make you think it doesn’t apply to you. It’s all the same and as such, I refer to both in this guide.) 1) DO NOT TURN A BLIND EYE Sometimes ignorance can be momentarily blissful.…
Recovery myths dispelled
Myths Dispelled by Shay awiferedeemed.blogspot.com On January 2, 2013, a four hour conversation with my husband changed my life forever. I knew within the first 10 minutes that our marriage hung by a thread and whether or not we made it, was primarily up to him. That was the night that it became clear that…
Rebuilding Trust After Sexual Betrayal
by Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT Founder and Director LifeStar of St. George, UT I regularly meet with men who tell me they have given up pornography and sexual acting for good and have no intentions of going back. They share how they’ve moved from darkness to light. They talk about the mighty change in their…
The Drama of Attachment
by Jill Call, AMFT LifeStar Therapist “I must be crazy!” A woman recently expressed to me. “I want to love and feel emotionally safe with my husband at the same time that I want nothing to do with him.” Maybe you’ve felt like this woman – caught between competing feelings of “come close” and “get…
Drama not Trauma
by Noelle Christensen, LPC LifeStar Therapist Have you ever expressed your needs to your partner and been told “stop being so dramatic!” If so, it may have felt like the wind was knocked out of you. In fact, what you may have heard instead is something like, “What you are feeling does not matter to…
Fighting Against Pornography- Part 1
The Broken Windows theory, developed more than 30 years ago, holds that police can stop higher levels of crime by giving more attention to the smaller crimes, such as breaking windows. By emphasizing law and order and a different level of community expectations, crime rates overall can be lowered. A lot of police and social…
Fighting Against Pornography- Part 2
Editor’s note: The following story deals with sexually-themed subject matter that will not be appropriate for some readers. Discretion is advised. This is part two in a four-part series. Read part one: “Ubiquitous assailant: The dangerous unasked questions surrounding pornography“. Read part 3: “Why laws to fight pornography aren’t being used.” Read part four: “How couples break the…
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