“Oh, the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all out, just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness blow the rest away.”
– Dinah Craik (1826-1887), English poet and novelist
I believe one of the most healing things about recovery is learning to open up and be vulnerable with other people. When individuals (both those who struggle and their partners) begin attending groups, 12-step meetings, or talking to someone they trust, something important begins to happen. They start to feel safe. For some individuals, this is the first time they’ve felt safe with another person.
Recovery isn’t just about stopping a behavior. It’s about healing relationships.