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Ebb and Flow of Recovery

Uncategorized Jan 18, 2022

by Jeff Ford, LMFT, Clinical Director

Have you had a slip in recovery? Did you miss some of your recovery work due to the holidays or other life events? Are you out of your normal routine? Good, that’s a part of the recovery process that everyone experiences. To ensure you continue to make progress, the key is to get things back on track.

Life is full of unstructured time or unexpected events. No matter how much we plan or prepare, there will always be things that come up and catch us off guard. We just can’t be 100% all of the time.

This means that throughout the recovery process, there will be times when things will flex to match the ups and downs that are part of your normal day-to-day life. There is a natural ebb and flow. Of course, this does not mean that we are going to be perfect at dealing with those unexpected changes. It’s something you will need to learn as your recovery matures. In the beginning, having strict routines are critical, and over time you’ll be able to learn how to navigate changes and then get back to your routine. 

One of the best ways to do this is to have a sit down conversation. When you recognize that things are out of the normal routine, talk to your spouse about it. Plan how you want to get things back on track and set up a recovery schedule. 

This is especially important if it has been some time since you were following your normal routine so that you can plan the steps that will help you get back on track. It’s just like exercise; you can’t sit around for three months and suddenly decide to start working out for two hours, six days a week. You will get burnt out and will want to give up. 

Here are two important questions to address as you are planning your recovery schedule: 

  1. What are the areas (physical, spiritual, sexual, emotional, etc.) where you are feeling out of balance? 
  2. What’s barriers are keeping us from having a better connection? 

Finding the answers to those questions as you talk about how you want to return to your recovery routines will help you to be more successful. 

The beginning of the year is a great time to refresh and get your routines back on track. As you set goals for the New Year, think about what improvements you want to make with your recovery and with the relationships you have with your loved ones.

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