Not only does the husband learn to talk about his addictive behaviors with other guys, but, more importantly, he also practices sharing his emotional world. Betrayed women also learn how to open up about their fears, doubts, needs, and other emotions to other women. This gives them a chance to clarify and identify what they really need when they communicate with each other. Couples recovery through the LifeStar Getting Started Workshop, then, becomes the place where they get to live what they’ve learned and practiced in their individual recovery work. Healthy emotional intimacy requires ongoing practice for both husbands and wives. Couples patiently learn how to open up and share deeper feelings and needs with each other. As they learn to express emotional and physical vulnerability with each other, they not only experience a more satisfying relationship, they also heal the effects of addiction and betrayal trauma.
In summary, a couple’s recovery begins with:
- Seeking a qualified sex addiction and betrayal trauma therapist to help structure their combined recovery efforts.
- Completing a formal disclosure with the support of a qualified therapist
- Learning about the cause of addiction and betrayal trauma
- Understanding how they miscommunicate with each other
- Learning how to support each other in recovery