PHASE III: ADVANCED GROUP:
Who Attends: - Men and women meet in separate weekly recovery groups.
Pre-requisites: - Participants are required to attend and complete Phases 1 and 2 before participating in Phase 3.
What is the duration: - Approximately 12 months. Groups meet once per week for a 90-minute treatment group.
What is the format: - Small group therapy and educational environment with group sizes of 4 to 10 people. The men are combined in all men's groups and the women are combined into all women's groups. Typically, a Phase 2 group graduates to Phase 3 and the group stays together. The men are still combined in all men's groups and the women are still combined into all women's groups.
How much does it cost: - $200 per month. This includes all workbooks and materials.
What should be expected: - By now, continued active participation in the group process should be routine. Phase 3 addresses the issues that created the addiction in the first place, such as faulty core beliefs, trauma, and shame. Once the addiction has been stopped and the underlying issues have been addressed, healthy lifestyle changes are reinforced in order to keep the addiction from reappearing. The women's Phase 3 group helps women learn how to open up and trust again. It's common for women to feel emotionally shut down from relational trauma. Phase 3 helps them rediscover the ways they protected themselves emotionally and how to free themselves from staying closed and guarded with others. For couples in the program, this is the time to practice their new lifestyle and new way of relating to each other. In Phase 3, they have more relationship security and safety to grow more deeply and intimately as a couple. This is where the true lifestyle change occurs to ensure lasting recovery.
What is covered: - The men in the third phase of treatment have demonstrated a solid sobriety from the sexual acting out behaviors and are ready to do the more delicate work of healing shame, attachment, and other emotional issues that the addiction covered up. Once the underlying issues have been addressed, healthy lifestyle changes are reinforced in order to keep the addiction from reappearing in the future. Men also learn how to improve their relationships with their wives, children, extended family, co-workers, and friends. Most women have moved past the crisis of betrayal in Phase 3 and are now able to work on healthy emotional expression, healing trauma, decreasing shame, and improving their most important relationships. Women in the third phase re-discover their best selves and build patterns for long-term healthy living.
For both men and women, Phase III is a chance to practice living life without the constant threat of the addiction and helps each of them secure the gains from the two previous phases.